Steps to Win Your Ex Back

Knowing how to go about getting your ex back can be a complicated thing. The steps required to win your ex back are not taught in any course, and there are few people that can give you quality advice. Most of the time we will get our ideas on ow to win that ex back from friends, who really have no idea on how to go about it. We get ideas from what we think would work on us, and we get ideas from movies where a lost love has been won back.

In reality getting an ex back is a very complicated thing and you should not attempt to win them back without first following a few common sense steps as outlined below.

First, you need to distance yourself from you ex. This can be difficult, especially if your ex wants to stay in contact with you. But, you must be strong and create that distance so you can start getting beyond the emotion and start thinking clearly. This will also be a sign to your ex that you are strong enough to stand on your own, and bring them to the realization that you don’t “need” them to survive.

Second, do not isolate yourself. Spend some time with your family and friends, for support. Isolating yourself, allows you too much time to stew, dwell in your circumstances and depress you. Spending time with those that care about you, and will lift you up and encourage you.

While spending time with family and friends, ask them what they think went wrong with the downfall of the relationship. You may already think you know what went wrong, but it’s good to get an outside perspective. Be warned, your family and friends will probably tend to blame your ex to help you feel better. You need to let them know that they need to be brutally honest and help you see want went wrong, even if you are at fault. If you really want to know what went wrong, you need to be strong enough to hear the truth.

Your next move is to take what you heard from family and friends, about what caused the breakup, and what you think was behind the breakup. It’s up to you to really understand what went wrong, even if it hurts because you may have been responsible.

Then you need to decide where you want to go from here. Do you still want your ex back? Do you think you and your ex are really compatible? Are you curious about other possible relationships? If you contributed to the breakup, do you need to change some things? Are you willing to work on changing yourself if necessary?

If you are still interested in trying to get your ex back, then your next move is to initiate contact with your ex. You need to be strong, mature and be able to communicate without a lot of emotion. Ask your ex how they are doing, and see where the conversation goes from there. Don’t expect, or even try, to get back together on that call. Stay in touch and suggest doing some things together, and see if the relationship can be built again over time.

Saving Your Marriage

It’s tough going through that horrible time when you feel like your marriage is coming to an end.  I know it may seem hopeless but don’t give up on saving your marriage.

There are thousands who have gone through what you’re going through right now and have succeeded in saving their marriage.  There is help to stop a divorce, or to help correct problems before you get to that point.

You do need to realize that as much as you may want to save your relationship, you may not be able to. Make sure that you prepare yourself mentally for any possible outcome. This isn’t thinking pessimistically, it is being realistic which is what you need to be.

If you want success in saving your marriage, it’s important to get marriage counseling.   Hopefully your spouse will be willing to do the counseling with you, to get the most out of it.  If your spouse will not attend counseling with you, you can still get counseling and work on the things that you can control to try to save your marriage.

Several marriages have been brought back from the edge of divorce, because of counseling and therapy. Marriage counselors are able to deal with all marriage issues, from infidelity between spouses, to depression, or anything else that can stress a relationship to the point of divorce.

Marriage counseling doesn’t have to be expensive, there are plenty of good choices for you to use to get good relationship advice before you see a divorce lawyer.

One thing you can control while trying to save your marriage, is to avoid arguments.  This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t discuss important subjects with your spouse, but getting drawn into an argument will help no one.

When you feel your frustration level rising, and sense your spouse is trying to raw you into an argument, take a deep breath and inform your spouse that you are not going to argue about it.  Let them know that when you both cool down, you would like to talk calmly about the subject.

When you do sit down to talk, make sure you listen to your spouses point of view.  Their point of view may be different than yours, but it could be a valid point of view, and they could be right.

If you can both calmly express where you are both coming from, you should be able to find some common ground where you can both agree and move on.

If you are really interested in saving your marriage, it could take a lot of work and patience, depending on how damaged your marriage is.  But, the work and patience could pay big dividends in the future.

How to Win Back Your Ex With Common Sense

So, you’re boyfriend, or girlfriend has ended the relationship and moved on. You’re trying to move on too, but you just can’t seem to give up on the relationship. Perhaps you have a sense that your ex still loves you, perhaps you just believe you two belong together. You feel their is still hope for the relationship and want to try one more time to win back your ex.

How to you go about doing that? Where do you start? you probably have some ideas on things that you can do, like sending them love notes, or a love letter, or buy them gifts.

The first thing you need to do is STOP. Take a step back and follow the tips below before you go any further.

First, you need to look at what went wrong, and in particular, what part did you play in the relationship ending. It takes two to make a relationship work, and like it or not, you probably contributed to the breakup.

If after evaluating your contribution to the relationship ending, ask yourself if you are willing to address those issues, or if you even can address those issues..

If you really think you can change, and are committed to doing so, you may have a chance to win back your ex. It’s not a bad idea to talk to your ex and apologize for the things that you had done that caused strain in the relationship. This shows your ex that you cared enough to reflect on what you did wring in the relationship. It also shows a sign of maturity that you were able to face fault and apologize.

During that conversation, do not suggest that they take you back since you have learned your lesson and are promising to change. It’s too early to press them to get back together. Plus, when you don’t go asking to get back together, they will see that you appear to be able to move on.

Stay in touch with your ex, perhaps weekly, for a while. Just give them a quick call to see how they’re doing. Keep the conversation light. Subtly remind them of some of the good times you had together, but don’t go overboard. You just want to create a small spark in their mind and heart related to some special time you had together.

These weekly, and casual, conversations will either lead to a friendship, or you will come to the conclusion that they are not interested in even being friends.

Friendships often lead to more serious relationships. For many relationships, the “love” relationship developed to quickly and the friendship stage was never really developed. Having a strong friendship may be something that your relationship needed and could lead to a stronger love relationship.